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No beige surrender.

Essays and field notes about midlife, identity, desire, relationships, beauty, ambition, and what happens when you stop assuming the life you already built is the only version you’re allowed to want.

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The ItchFree essay

I Have No Interest in Becoming My Best Self

For anyone who has accidentally turned her entire existence into an improvement project.

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Five places we tend to wander

The ItchSomething doesn’t fit. Let’s investigate.
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Try the HandleDoors you were pretty sure were locked.
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In CultivationMaking room for more of what makes life feel like yours.
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Field NotesThings noticed while allegedly living one’s life.
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For the Whim of ItBecause it caught my attention.

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“I’m grateful” and “I want more” turn out not to be opposites.

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More, Actually is for the moment when “I’m grateful” and “I want more” turn out not to be opposites. These pieces are a good place to meet the voice, the questions, and the particular collection of open tabs we’re working with around here.

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Hi, I’m Abbey.

I’m a forty-something woman who did a lot of the things she was supposed to do and eventually became curious about who wrote the list. More, Actually is where I follow that question into midlife, beauty, desire, work, relationships, identity, and whatever else turns up once you start checking whether the doors are actually locked.

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